The Trouble with In-laws
Many stories have been said and written about the conflict between married men or women and their respective in-laws. I have yet to hear someone completely rave about his or her mother-, sister-, brother- or father-in-law. One way or the other, we have had sharp, hurtful encounters with them.
The website entitled IHATEMYINLAWS!!! offers people with this problem the opportunity to sound off about their own in-laws. I have quoted only some of them here (because there are over 900 stories!) and edited those that are too long and wordy, and corrected typographical errors for better reading.
These are real people, real situations, real stories. Some stories are ugly, even sad, and still others are downright hilarious. But any which way it was said, it only goes to show that in-laws make life miserable.
Link: http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/index.php?start=10
“Don’t you just love when your in-laws love to give advice? Not!
For example; My FIL comments regularly that I don’t clean our house very often, which is true, but it’s still not a pig pen like theirs is because of the following factors; we don’t throw dirty laundry all over the counters, table, floor, stairs and other areas where clothes should not be. We also don’t leave a trail of dirty dishes everywhere from the bathroom to the garage to the back porch. Keep in mind; their home is cluttered to the ceiling with toys, shoes, clothes, power tools, garbage, books and more!
And, he tells me I don’t clean enough?”
“Thank you BIL for;
Borrowing money which was never repaid
Having a dirty attitude when we ask to be repaid
Being a snob all these years
Being a big gossip
Being a pretty-boy and too lazy to work, instead, expecting everyone else to foot the bill for your laziness and overspending
Making snide remarks to me and talking trash behind my back when you didn’t even know me
Thinking you are better than just about everyone
Never having anything to do with us at all for the past 9 years, but then coming along wanting to borrow money, must take real courage! I should have said no!”
“So my in-laws hate me. Who knows why? I don’t think I’ve done anything but love their child, but okay.
It started with the whole wedding planning thing and went down hill from there. First, I guess (as I read in an email from one SIL to my future hubby), I was selfish for the location and date of the wedding. Clearly, (at least according to this gem of a relative) I was not thinking of anyone but myself. Ummmm…Bride, wedding? Oh wait…Did I mention that before any plans were put in place, I ASKED them where and when would be good? Only to hear that if I chose Iraq on Christmas Day, they’d be there. Okay, so really?
Then, the pee-poor DIL that I am…I wanted to find a way to split the holidays between the two families. Hubby and I agreed on a plan and let both families know…Only to be told by the in-laws that they have absolutely no intention of ever coming out to visit us. Nice. Boy did I strike gold with this group! I’ve been told that I’m selfish, self-centered, and some other tasty things. My husband has been told that he is not welcome in their house if I am with him (they’ve since changed their minds on that one), he’s been told that they don’t want anything to do with me, and more.
So we move on to my very moralistic SIL. Lots of kids, lots of baby daddies, and has the audacity to talk about me? …Her kids reached out to my hubby and as luck would have it, she didn’t think it appropriate. Ran back to mommy and daddy and told them how much we are trying to undermine her parenting. Wait, how? By answering them when they email us? By asking what they want for Christmas? … And the worst part is that the MIL and FIL think that she is okay in saying this. Did I mention the kids are like 16-23? Grrrrrr…”
“Mil,
I HATE the bad-faces that you create while eating the food that i prepare!
I know [I KNOW!!] you won’t ever like the food i prepare whatever i do!
Would some drops of rat-poison work to add the flavor of your taste??”
“MIL- You have been nothing but a complete b*tch to me for the last 7 years and I’ve had enough of your crap. All you ever do is complain and want people to feel sorry for you. When you aren’t doing that you are repeating the same ridiculous gossip stories to your loser friends (that you gossip about too!). You wonder why people don’t like you even though you judge and ridicule behind their backs. I have done nothing but be polite and respectful to you, and have kept a tight lip when you’ve stepped over the line. You have put words in my mouth, made up stories, tried to come between me and your son, and given advice that was NEVER asked for. I’m tired of you talking to my husband’s psycho exes. I know you are threatened that I am educated and have an opinion, and I know it PISSES you off that I don’t need you or your “help.”…”
“Should I hate my SIL? Why???
‘Just’ because she lies behind my back about me???
‘Just’ because she creates family dramas??
‘Just’ because she bitches and gossips about me??
‘Just’ because she tried to ruin all my relationships?
JUST????”””
“Bottom line; I hate you all. Before I met all of you, I never knew how much I could hate someone. It makes me wonder if my husband was adopted or something. Because he’s like NONE of you all. Go die for all I care.”
Whew! The words are harsh and cutting but underneath each story lies a very hurt, confused and wounded person who has bitterly tasted how it is with meddling, even cruel in-laws.
I would not dare give advice on how to cope with in-laws. I believe each of us have our own cross to bear. “It comes with the package,” as the saying goes. Meaning, like them or not, in-laws are here to stay as long as we’re married to their kin.
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