Don’t you just hate it when people do things to you that affect, irk, anger or hurt you and then goes, “What did I do?” as if they didn’t know they did that to you–when all the while they did–and then hold it against you?

Let me illustrate some examples:

My sister can’t help but be irked when my father’s friend unashamedly unhooked the latch in our home’s gate (from the outside, mind you!), walked right in the yard and sheepishly peeked at her through the window of our living room, surprising her, innocently asking for my father.  Afterwards, it was him who looked bewildered seeing my annoyed sister’s face. Okay, okay, so we don’t have a doorbell. Can he not pound on the gate instead of walking right in?

My officemate was very angry when she learned her elderly neighbor, whom she had allowed to use her home phone in some occasions, gave the number of her home phone to a friend from overseas! Imagine her consternation when she picked up her own phone at home and hear the operator say, “collect call from Canada for Mrs. R; will you accept?”  She was never asked permission by her neighbor to use her phone that way. Believe it or not, when she did not give that call to her neighbor, it was the old lady that had the gall to get hurt and hold it against her!

Speaking of home phones, I have a similar experience. Once, I was very sick with the flu and stayed home. I was sleeping peacefully when I was startled by the phone’s incessant ringing. I didn’t want to get up from bed; I was so weak, and my husband went out for awhile to buy some medicines. But the phone insisted. Painfully forcing myself out of bed, I walked to the phone and in a very groggy voice, answered, “Hello?”  To tell you the truth, when I heard the person from the other side ask if she can speak to my neighbor, I wanted to slam the phone right back to its cradle with a big wham. But minding my manners, I told her gently that I’m sorry, but I’m sick, and can she please call back some other time?  Well, did you think it ended there? No, no, no, no, no. The girl on the other side told me that my neighbor is waiting for her call, and would I please call her. It really took all the patience I got to summon myself in replying, in a hoarse voice, that I’m really very sick, I can’t call her. And guess what? My neighbor took that against me too.

Those are just some of the situations that peeve, annoy and anger us. I’m sure there are lots more. These scenes don’t neccesarily entail a big, loud fight between the offending person and the offended one, but it really drives a nail to the person who was offended to make him or her want to go, “Grrrr!”

But the question is, how could the offending party have the nerve to be the one to hold a grudge? Don’t they know when they have invaded other people’s privacy, or when they took us for granted, or abuse our good-heartedness? 

Here I am again: asking questions to which I already know the answers.

1. Frankie Says:
   June 12th, 2010 at 3:46 am

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2. katie pie Says:
   July 13th, 2010 at 4:44 pm

   TL;DR; but you have pretty pictures.

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3. Lexus GS Says:
   August 2nd, 2010 at 5:22 am

   You have a way with writing, but remember by and large, language is a tool for hiding the truth

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